Body image is a term used to describe how someone looks at their body and thinks that other people look at it the same way. Basically it means that you think you are too fat, too skinny, too tall etc and you start thinking that that is how other people in your lives see you as. It’s an image in your mind which does not go away easily.
You feel awkward and uncomfortable in your own skin. You start feeling self conscious, ashamed that nothing looks good on you. And people will not like you because of it. You convince yourselves that everyone but you is attractive, that no one likes your body.
This thing comes from low self esteem, morale and confidence. Your insecurities about life give rise to you not liking how you look. There is this background checklist of what a girl should look like, in our minds, long legs, slender hands, tiny waist, big butt etc, that everyone feels entitled to compare it with their selves.
Girls around 11, 12 years of age will start dieting because they want to look thinner, wear tight jeans to show off their legs, to make an image of themselves in front of their friends, peers etc. Social media has destroyed us in this sense that now every girl wants to look like Kendall Jenner. Or Jennifer Lopez.
When you start worrying about your bodies at such a young age, it gives rise to eating disorders like Bulemia, Anorexia etc. You start getting depressed, if dieting, running does not work. Your morale gets even lower. Because you think that the people who love you will not like you like this, happy and healthy.
95 percent of people with eating disorders are girls between the ages of 12 and 25. Its simply because they are not happy with themselves, with something that is not in there control at all. Sometimes this even leads to suicides.
This is a serious health issue which needs to dealt with baby steps. You cannot just give a lecture and be done with it. You have to live with that person. Show them what life is all about. Introduce them to people who like them just as they are, happy and healthy. Support them in their recovery. Its an ongoing battle with yourself. Because people judge you without even thinking for a second about it. And what is said is said, never to be taken back.
Start doing things that make you confident, give you self esteem, boost your morale and show you a better world. Surround yourselves with family, friends, peers, who help you in your difficult times. Take on different things in your daily routine. And the minute you start feeling down, call that friend of yours. Talk to her about how you feel, it will get better.
Confidence is the key to achieving things in this life. Be comfortable in your own skin. Be it black, brown, red, green or purple. Its your skin. So its perfect just the way it is.